Have you felt adrift lately, looking for a sense of belonging? Are you into tech, literature, or veganism? Choosing the right community is essential to cultivating new friendships, goals, and experiences.
But, you must determine the fit for your personality, interests, and lifestyle. Before committing to any community, evaluating its culture, activities, and values is crucial.
Consider what you hope to gain from your involvement and how the community can help you achieve your goals. Don’t be afraid to attend events or meet with current members to understand the community’s atmosphere better.
Choosing the right community carefully allows you to build meaningful relationships with like-minded individuals and unlock new opportunities for personal growth and development.
Start choosing the right community!
Choosing a community to belong to is vital to one’s social life. Communities allow people to connect with others who share similar interests, beliefs, and values. They provide a platform for individuals to develop lasting relationships, learn new things, and grow personally and professionally.
However, knowing the right community can often be challenging, especially for those new to a particular area or searching for something specific. Here’s what you need to know.
Do your research online
Many social media groups cater to every kind of community imaginable, ahem – Adulting Iloilo, everybody. These platforms will help you connect with people who share your interests and offer opportunities to attend events and activities in your area. You can check other groups by typing keywords on FB search like “art organizations in Iloilo,” “Kendo in Iloilo,” or anything that fancies you.
Go to local events
Attending local events is another great way to find a community of like-minded individuals. By going to events such as concerts, festivals, and workshops, you can meet people who share your interests and hobbies. Attending these events can also learn more about the community’s culture, values, and history. Events like art shows, pop-up talks, or trade fairs ~ you’ll likely find a couple of people you can chat with.
Volunteer
Volunteering is a great way to give back to the community and connect with others with the same values. You can volunteer at your local church, homeless shelter, animal shelter, or any other community service organization. This way, you will meet people who share your passion for community service. In Iloilo, we have JCI, Rotary, Cameleon, etc.
Attend classes/workshops
Attending classes is another way to find people who share your interests. Whether taking a cooking or dance class, you can meet new people and learn new things. You can also explore your interest in new areas. All you need to do is look for classes that match your interests in your area. I met new friends by attending a Japanese class in Mandurriao, Iloilo City, with NGO Loob!
Go to meetups
Meetups are another excellent way to find like-minded individuals. Whether you are interested in technology, sports, or music, there is a meetup group for everyone. You can search for local meetups on websites such as Meetup or Eventbrite. WordPress Iloilo has recently organized WordCamp this year. You can check them out and say, “Hi!” if you’re interested in tech meetups.
Join local clubs and organizations
Joining a local club or organization is another excellent way to find a community. Whether you are interested in art, literature, or hiking, there is a club for everyone. You can join these clubs by searching online or visiting your local community center. You can find various organizations and art groups using the links I’ve provided above.
Attend religious services
Attending religious services is a great way to connect with people who share your faith. You can participate in religious ceremonies, attend weekly meetings, and meet new people. There’s the Archdiocese of Jaro and Victory Iloilo as an example.
Join local support groups
Joining a local support group is an excellent way to find a community with similar struggles. There are support groups for every issue, whether dealing with addiction, mental health, or chronic illness. These groups provide a safe space to discuss your problems and find support from others who have been through the same thing. For example, FPOP Iloilo!
Network with professionals
Networking with professionals is another excellent way to find a community. You can attend networking events, conferences, and seminars to connect with professionals in your industry. You will learn from industry leaders and peers, which will help you grow professionally.
Ask friends and family for recommendations
Lastly, you can ask your friends and family for recommendations. They may know about a community that suits your interests or can introduce you to someone who shares your hobbies or values.
The above-listed ways are some of the top methods to research and find the right community. Following one or more of these steps allows you to find like-minded individuals, develop new relationships, and grow personally and professionally.
Are there any red flags or signs before joining a group or community?
When it comes to joining a new group or community, it can be an exciting opportunity for new experiences and friendships. However, watching for red flags or warning signs indicating a toxic or harmful environment is important. Sometimes, being in a group can kill your social vibes!
Lack of transparency
Does the group or community operate secretly, keeping important information hidden from new members? This lack of transparency can be a warning sign of a group that values control over honest communication. Some organizations do this so new members can serve as the “fall guy” for an eventually bad situation.
Pressure to conform
Do group members discourage individuality or pressure new members to conform to strict beliefs or behaviors? This can be a sign that the group values conformity over authenticity. Or, just purely acting in vain.
Aggressive recruitment tactics
The last time you checked, this isn’t some over-the-top multi-level marketing scheme. Does the group use pushy sales tactics or guilt trips to pressure new members to join? Heck, is there even a quota? Do they even value you as a person?
A cult-like atmosphere
Does the group prioritize the leader’s teachings and authority over all else? Do they have strict, unique beliefs that go against mainstream thought? Who are they worshipping???
Insularity
Are members encouraged to stay within the group or community and avoid outside influences? This can mean the group wants to maintain control over its members.
Lack of diversity
Does the group or community lack diversity, whether it be in terms of race, gender, or beliefs?
Emphasis on money
Does the group or community focus heavily on money through constant fundraising or pressure to donate large amounts? Maybe they value monetary gain over personal growth or community building. LEAVE.
Conflict and drama
Do group members frequently engage in drama or conflict with one another? If they’re going too badly about one person, they will likely talk behind your back, too.
Lack of respect:
Are new members disrespected or belittled by existing members?
Refusal to acknowledge problems
Does the group or community refuse to acknowledge any problems or criticisms brought up by members? So, they’re just trying to pinpoint your problems, eh?
While joining a new group or community can be exciting, watching for red flags indicating a toxic or harmful environment is important.
Considerations when choosing the right community
If you’re looking for “new friends,” here are some considerations to be made.
Shared interests and hobbies
Finding a community that shares your interests and hobbies is a great way to cultivate a strong sense of belonging. Whether it’s a chess team, a book club, or a tech group – joining a community that revolves around what you love will connect you with like-minded individuals.
Geographical location
Consider joining a community close to your home or work. The convenience of attending meetings and activities without a long commute will make it easier for you to participate and feel like a part of the group. Some groups can cater nationally or internationally and can be done online when you need help.
For example, I’m part of the BDAP, which is based in Manila, but I’m from Iloilo City – but, I still join their events, online and at book fairs. Internationally, I’m part of SCWBI and join workshops (FREE, if you’re a member) to hone my skills.
Demographic
Think about what demographic you would feel most comfortable in. Are you looking for a community of people around your own age, religion, or ethnicity? Identifying the type of people you want to surround yourself with can help narrow down your search.
Purpose
Decide what type of community you want to join based on its purpose. For instance, joining a non-profit organization or charity group can be incredibly fulfilling if you’re interested in volunteering.
Online vs. Offline
Determine whether you want to join an online or offline community. Online communities like Facebook groups and discussion boards allow you to connect with individuals worldwide. On the other hand, offline communities allow you to meet people face-to-face and build real connections.
Size
Consider the size of the community you want to join. If you prefer a more intimate setting, a smaller community may be better suited for you. However, if you thrive in a larger group setting, a larger community with more opportunities for events and activities may work best.
Diversity
Look for diverse communities in their members, ideas, and perspectives. Engaging with people from different backgrounds can broaden your horizons and provide new opportunities for personal growth.
Leadership
Consider the leadership of the community you’re interested in joining. Look for a leader who is passionate, transparent, and empathetic. A strong leader can create a positive community culture and support your growth within the group.
Safety and comfort
Consider your safety and comfort within the community. Ensure the community has a zero-tolerance policy for discriminatory behaviors and that you feel safe and respected in the group.
Choosing the right community for you can take time, but by considering these factors, you’ll find a sense of belonging with a group that brings out your best.
